I preached on the unmerciful servant from Matthew 18 last Sunday. (I’ll post it up when the audio comes available). Let me give one reflection on how the whole subject was received…
There were two groups of response. Group A were those who struggled to forgive (I was expecting that). But I was surprised there was also group B – those who longed to be released by unforgiving friends and relatives. Now take a wild stab in the dark – what gender do you think were all the members of Group A? And what gender do you think were all the members of Group B?
Why do women and men seem to struggle with forgiveness in different ways? These are wild generalisations but, what are blogs for eh?…
Thought 1 – women are often more open relationally and therefore the wounds go deeper
Thought 2 – reconciliation will be more costly for women where there’s a higher expectation of openness in the future.
Thought 3 – mostly when we “forgive” we don’t write off people’s debt we write off the people. This false forgiveness goes a lot more unnoticed among men than women.
I have other things to say on forgiveness, but do you have other thoughts on this seeming gender disparity?